To many people, Mother's Day is a day to celebrate mother figures from every aspect of life. We get together, eat, laugh and exchange cards. But to those of us that have no one special to plan an amazing day for us (or maybe there are people around...but they just don't care) the day seems about as much worth celebrating as you will celebrate tomorrow being Monday morning.
However, I refuse to believe that we shouldn't celebrate what we do year round for our kids and others, simply because there is no one to really appreciate what we do (most children, especially my case, as in a 4-year old, have no idea this day, or any day, is NOT about them lol).
Here are 5 REASONS WHY you are an amazing person, unique human, and kick-ass mom!
Most people draw their validation from external sources, and while its nice to be noticed, when we live for attention, we will die when its gone...which is inevitable. Tomorrow people will go back to bitching about Mondays and those much appreciated and celebrated "moms" will be forgotten until next year. Us single mama's draw our strength and appreciate of who we are and our accomplishments from our internal sources...something that no one or nothing, not even Monday morning, can take away.
Does any mom really wear those generic "I love mom" necklaces anyway? My mother never did, even though I spent my saved birthday or Christmas money to get it for her. I mean, I can buy myself a trip to the spa...Plus, receiving a gift in today's society usually only means you owe someone a favor in the future. I'll skip the cheap jewelry rashes and house clutter for a self paid spa-day, or an online shopping spree... something I don't have to worry about owing someone else for later.
Most families only spend time together on the holidays for a reason: they really don't like each other all that much! When people grow up, they grow apart. Long GONE are the days when the great-grandparents cooked the meals and everyone else reaped the benefits of eating and lounging around. These days, people get together, and there's resentment about how someone reacted to another's bratty child, or the uncle makes snide remarks to anyone not helping do the dishes, just like every year, on every holiday, since anyone can remember. We didn't have to spend one second with those assholes, which is probably the greatest gift of all!
The real reason for the holiday is to get to appreciate being a mom. If you are single, you likely work one or more jobs and have limited time with your kids. You may have even had to work today. But you still get to spend what time you do get appreciating your little ones, even if you are the only one that knows how much you do for them. They will know too...one day.
The only time I have ever seen anyone posting on social media about how grateful they are for their mother, was today, or if they are sick or dead. If it takes a made-up holiday to spend time with someone or acknowledge all they do for you all year, then its most likely forced, fake, and a show for your FB wall. Yes, I bet everyone is thankful for their mother, you wouldn't be alive without her, but wouldn't it be nice to recognize that any other day besides greeting card days? This is a social problem, not a "moms day" problem . Personally, I know what I sacrifice year round for my kid, and I don't need anyone to post about it on social media to make those sacrifices valid.
Being a single mother and going through the challenges unique to us, really puts into perspective the reality of the world and real-life situations. People assume "single" mom means a woman that made a bad decision and now must live with it. The reality is, most single moms were in committed relationships or married when they had kids. Social stigmas and standards try to dictate where we as single mother's stand in society. Don't buy into it and don't drink the cool aid. INSTEAD...sit down, pour yourself a glass of wine (or whatever's your poison), kick back tonight, and realize you ARE special, loved and a huge part of the world of evolution. Raising a child with no help is nothing short of amazing, resourceful, strong, and worthwhile. Celebrate yourself today, and all the single mama's like you!
You are a superhero, all day everyday.
Much Love,
Britt
However, I refuse to believe that we shouldn't celebrate what we do year round for our kids and others, simply because there is no one to really appreciate what we do (most children, especially my case, as in a 4-year old, have no idea this day, or any day, is NOT about them lol).
Here are 5 REASONS WHY you are an amazing person, unique human, and kick-ass mom!
1.) WE don't need someone else to recognize we are special just for being a mom. We know we are.
Most people draw their validation from external sources, and while its nice to be noticed, when we live for attention, we will die when its gone...which is inevitable. Tomorrow people will go back to bitching about Mondays and those much appreciated and celebrated "moms" will be forgotten until next year. Us single mama's draw our strength and appreciate of who we are and our accomplishments from our internal sources...something that no one or nothing, not even Monday morning, can take away.
2.) We appreciate the little things in life, materialism is nice, but it's fleeting.
Does any mom really wear those generic "I love mom" necklaces anyway? My mother never did, even though I spent my saved birthday or Christmas money to get it for her. I mean, I can buy myself a trip to the spa...Plus, receiving a gift in today's society usually only means you owe someone a favor in the future. I'll skip the cheap jewelry rashes and house clutter for a self paid spa-day, or an online shopping spree... something I don't have to worry about owing someone else for later.
3.) We don't have to spend the day with people we don't like.
Most families only spend time together on the holidays for a reason: they really don't like each other all that much! When people grow up, they grow apart. Long GONE are the days when the great-grandparents cooked the meals and everyone else reaped the benefits of eating and lounging around. These days, people get together, and there's resentment about how someone reacted to another's bratty child, or the uncle makes snide remarks to anyone not helping do the dishes, just like every year, on every holiday, since anyone can remember. We didn't have to spend one second with those assholes, which is probably the greatest gift of all!
4.) All our time is spent with our kids.
The real reason for the holiday is to get to appreciate being a mom. If you are single, you likely work one or more jobs and have limited time with your kids. You may have even had to work today. But you still get to spend what time you do get appreciating your little ones, even if you are the only one that knows how much you do for them. They will know too...one day.
5.) Who really cares about made-up greeting card days anyway?
The only time I have ever seen anyone posting on social media about how grateful they are for their mother, was today, or if they are sick or dead. If it takes a made-up holiday to spend time with someone or acknowledge all they do for you all year, then its most likely forced, fake, and a show for your FB wall. Yes, I bet everyone is thankful for their mother, you wouldn't be alive without her, but wouldn't it be nice to recognize that any other day besides greeting card days? This is a social problem, not a "moms day" problem . Personally, I know what I sacrifice year round for my kid, and I don't need anyone to post about it on social media to make those sacrifices valid.
Being a single mother and going through the challenges unique to us, really puts into perspective the reality of the world and real-life situations. People assume "single" mom means a woman that made a bad decision and now must live with it. The reality is, most single moms were in committed relationships or married when they had kids. Social stigmas and standards try to dictate where we as single mother's stand in society. Don't buy into it and don't drink the cool aid. INSTEAD...sit down, pour yourself a glass of wine (or whatever's your poison), kick back tonight, and realize you ARE special, loved and a huge part of the world of evolution. Raising a child with no help is nothing short of amazing, resourceful, strong, and worthwhile. Celebrate yourself today, and all the single mama's like you!You are a superhero, all day everyday.
Much Love,
Britt
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